If you asked all your male friends if they’ve ever hired a pro stitute, you might be surprised by their honest answer. A recent survey discovered that 15 percent of American men had paid for se x at some point in their life, and 10 percent of British men have.
The stats surprised me — they were higher than I had expected. But then I realized that I personally know a few men who have frequentedthe services of ladies of the night. A few indulged on a bachelor’s trip to Prague, another hired a pros titute every night on his way home from the pub, and yet another hired services online a few times a month.
So I thought I’d ask them outright: why do you pay for se x? The answers are way simpler than you’d imagine:
1. They want to sleep with MUCH hotter women.
“If I’m being brutally honest, the hottest women I’ve ever f*cked have been se x workers. I would never be able to f*ck women who are ridiculously hot unless they were pro stitutes.”
This was the top reason they all gave. I was surprised, since the guys I asked are all good-looking, successful in their chosen fields, and have no problem getting dates. But they all agreed that to sleep with stunning women, the easiest way was simply to pay.
2. They want to be in control.
“I still want to make sure that the woman is having a good time. But truthfully, I’m more concerned that I’m getting what I want, since I paid for it. And because I paid for it, I’m not afraid to ask.”
Most of them said there’s something very hot in being able to ask for what you want in bed and get it, no questions asked. (Although one guy did admit he paid a pro stitute once so that SHE could be in charge.) But generally, they all admitted to being more open about what they wanted and more physically satisfied when they paid for se x. Emotionally, of course, remains to be seen.
3. They want to indulge in a fantasy.
“I like to try things — I’m not going to say what — that a girlfriend once told me was kinky. When I pay a hooker, I’m not worried about what I ask for. Nothing shocks them.”
Although most of the guys I spoke to were all single, the old cliché of men asking pro stitutes for certain “services” that would offend their wives still seems to exist. One man said that he’d never had better oral se x in his life than with a prostitute.
4. They want to find the quickest route to having se x.
“Getting a pro stitute is so easy: no strings attached, you can choose the woman you want before you purchase, then they arrive at your door. Couldn’t be easier.”
All the guys I spoke to had used different methods of visiting pro stitutes. Two used websites, another visited a brothel, and another took a pro stitute’s number from a London phone box. But they all agreed: it was the quickest way to get se x when they felt the urge.
5. They want to avoid complications.
“We want to have se x without all the bullsh*t of pretending to be really interested in a girl. When you pay for se x, you don’t have to swap numbers at the end when you know you won’t call. You pay, have se x, she leaves. Everyone’s happy.”
Several of the men had previously had one-night stands with girls who wouldn’t leave them alone after the fact. They said that taking home a girl and sleeping with her seems like a great idea … until the girl suggests meeting again or wants to start dating or having a relationship. As embarrassed as they were to admit it, many of them said the sure-fire way to have no-strings-attached se x is to pay for it.